and on the days when it seems to hard, and on the days when it seems really sad. and when you have more questions than answers, and it feels like more regrets than dreams. remember where you were, and now where you are, and how fresh it is here, and how lovely that one rose that popped up in your garden is. and remember the leave. and how safe you are now, and how much better you are now. and remember the safety, respect and love you will feel is of far more value than the pain you feel now. and remember the punishment is over (it is finished) and you are still rowing. don't forget. ever.